Using the belt always straightens me out, quickly. I hate the belt, but it does keep my mind right. Don't judge, we're all freaks here. Some submissives like to be called "bitch". I do, and I don't consider it disrespectful. Very good read.
It evokes the dread we felt when we were children and our parents caught us doing something wrong or we slacked at work and the boss tore us a new one. A submissive regularly shows up late to sessions, dates, etc. Instead, make them sit and write 50 reasons why being late is a bad thing and then read it out loud. However , keep in mind that in some BDSM instances or for certain couples etc , a collar is as serious as a wedding band. To take it away as a punishment would be rather harsh, so use with discretion. Lovense Bluetooth and long distance butt plug. Check out DOMI - the programmable, cordless magic wand.
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However, it is possible for some acts of degradation to ALSO humiliate. Either by better behavior or a fun time, participants should be aiming for a positive outcome. Punishments should be clear and consistent. Because strangers walking down the street — vanilla or otherwise — are not able or might not want to consent to seeing it.